The Narcissism of The God of My Wants

Blessed_Trinity_One_God_Wallpaper_1600x1200_wallpaperhereIf I see one more person give praise to the almighty over something they received, I may blow my lid.

To see one more individual living in a nation as privileged as the United States give praise to god for a new car, house, phone, clothes or job may just push me over the edge.

I had a friend very recently tell me about how god blessed them with a new house. That Jesus himself gifted it to them. In that moment, it took some inner Herculean strength to not say some things I’d later regret.

Please allow me to try and put what my friend was saying into perspective, while god/Jesus (Gesus) is spending so much time blessing you with riches and your wants, there are people all over the world suffering horrible deaths because god can’t be bothered to give them simple things like food and water. While Gesus blesses you further, he continues to neglect men, women and children the world over. Gesus can certainly be bothered to help you get a promotion or a new house, but can’t possibly be pestered with starving children. Wow.

How people fail to see how narcissitic this thinking is blows my mind. This thanking Gesus for material things while others suffer and die in nightmarish conditions needs to stop. It’s gross.

These things you’re thanking Gesus for are the result of work, friends, money, effort and coincidence. Your god has no hand in helping you buy a house, get a car or finding a high yield CD for your grandmother at the bank.

God, you see, is always on the side of the believer. He answers their prayers, blesses them, grants them entrance to heaven and loves them. Others not in this specific belief system, are not listened to and do not find favor with god and suffer an eternity in hell.

This is the epitome of arrogance and a good example of how detached believers living in a developed nation can be from reality.

So, if you’re a theist and reading this, please stop thanking your god for trivial things while the rest of the world suffers immensely. To think your god helps you with non life retaining things and neglects others’ more basic needs, not only paints you into a very unbecoming light of arrogance and narcissism, but it puts the concept of your god into a far more unflattering light than is necessary.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes by Sam Harris:

“Given all that this God of yours does not accomplish in the lives of others. Given the misery that’s being imposed on some helpless child at this instant. This kind of faith is obscene. To think in this way is to fail to reason honestly, or to care sufficiently about the suffering of other human beings.”




14 thoughts on “The Narcissism of The God of My Wants

  1. Thank you! Very well said, Nate. I hear that insensitive crap all the time and it leaves a stench in my nostrils.

    Someone dies a horrible death approximately every 5 seconds from starvation, primarily children, and people have the gall to suggest that their god overlooks such suffering, and pays more attention to their self-centered wants. Disgusting.

    • Right?! It’s crazy. I put the stat on my facebook with the link to this, but UNICEF said it’s 29,000 a day now under the age of 5.

      It’s just gross and believers need to hear us say that.

  2. Reblogged this on kindism and commented:
    We are taught that we should not covet material wealth, nor should we make false gods/idols out of material possessions, however, vast material wealth is seen as a reflection of vast Spiritual advancement. The Christian Scientist’s willingness to rely on God to provide – to those leaning on the sustaining infinite today is big with blessings! – is met with remarkable demonstrations of supply. Interestingly, the supply demonstrated is often material which is, by Ms. Eddy’s own definitions is unreal, erroneous, evil and often associated with death. Christian Scientists should be working to overcome the material (the lusts of the flesh, the need for food, sickness, disease, death, etc.), while simultaneously being comfortably surrounded by material things, and having adequate sources of income to provide comfortably for themselves and make generous donations to the Church.

    If you’re confused, don’t be, it never made much sense to me either.

  3. Nate, I believe it is a wrong understanding of thanksgiving of many Christians and wrong belief of God’s providence of liberal Christianity among many other to be blamed.

    If you trace back to early Christians, they gave thanks to God who blessed and curse/permit pain and suffering. They blessed when God gave and when God took away. They blessed when God healed or killed. This theology is gone because the God of many Christians is not the God as revealed in the two testament.

    As a result, we reject a god of modern liberal Christianity. We rightly do so. He is more of Saint Nicolai(Santa Claus), a sky confused bitter-sweet daddy than what classical theism offers.

  4. Exactly! I hear it too. All…the…time. Drives me crazy. Love the quote from Harris; remember the first time I heard him say it in a debate. Hit me hard and made me think.

    Now that I’m an unbeliever, I’m much more in-tune with what’s going on all over the world. Watching BBC, instead of FOX makes a big difference. 😉

  5. I was in the process of writing about the ridiculousness of Noah’s ark and I came upon this blog in the process. Thanks Nathan for your brain and your entertaining, informative blogs. I’m not alone..

    • Thanks so much for the kind words! Means more than you know.

      I still remember how amazing it felt when I realized that there were millions out there that had come to the same conclusions as me. It’s one of the best perks of the internet!

      I hope you’ll stop by often and chime in when you feel compelled to. Do you run a blog or site?

      • Nathan,
        I will chime in-totally interesting stuff. I do not run a blog, but I’ve always wanted to as I have some much to say about religion and music. I actually came here to read your journey to Atheism and loved it. Your comments were closed on it, so I just commented here. I, like you, have a wife and three kids and felt with the birth of my first child, to make sure 100% to raise them without fear unlike my wife and I were raised. Boy to I have some fear based stories regarding all this. The non belief in any God(s) have changed my life for the better.
        Pardon my ignorance, but do you need to know technical things e.g.. computer languages, coding, etc. to be able to get your own blog, or is it intuitive ala Facebook? Let me know, I’d love to write MY journey. Hey, not to be the grammar police, but I caught an error in your story: “The fact that our purpose of living was THE blow smoke up the skirt of a god that will damn us to hell.” 🙂

      • The comments are closed? Really? I’ll have to look into that. I have all comment moderation turned off so people can post and dialogue as much as they want. Not sure why they’re off for that post, but I’ll look into it so thanks for the heads up.

        Yeah, man, writing out our journeys is helpful to others that have struggled or are struggling like we did. It was one of the loneliest points of my life and sadly, it took me far too long to find an online group of like minded people. Looking back now, it’s amazing how far I’ve come.

        As far as running a blog, it’s really quite simple. No coding or anything super crazy. WordPress is pretty intuitive, but does take a little work to get the hang of. Anyways, google is only a click away! WordPress does have a nice “Reader” section that shows all the blogs you follow in a news format kind of like Facebook. It’s a wonderful way to meet new people and exchange ideas.

        Haha, thanks for the correction!

        Let me know if you need anything, brother. I’ll be around!

  6. Thanks! I just got my own WordPress! I just notice you were from IN and raised Baptist. Whoa. This is my wife’s story. I know it far too well. In fact, if you don’t mind, I’d love to reference your blog, or parts of it. The ” He’s awkward looking with coke bottle glasses and horrendous hair and triple hand me down clothes” is so close to what my wife said about herself as a child, it is uncanny. Must be a IN Baptist thing. Thankfully she is now a beautiful agnostic(one step closer to the truth) and wears new or Vintage clothes. Thanks again.

    • Awesome! Give me the link once you get it all setup to your liking so I can “follow” you….but not in a creeper way.

      Your poor wife and I have much in common it seems. Was being dressed that way a tenet of Southern Baptists? Maybe somewhat. I blame my parents.

      Glad we were both able to find our ways out! Keep me posted on everything!

  7. (a little late to the discussion – I just found your site)
    As someone newly trying to make sense of the world without God (or Gesus…), thanks for your great post.
    Apart from the response of simply being mortally offended, have you heard any responses to this fundamental problem from believers beyond something vague about “God is god and you are not” or “sometimes you need pain to achieve a greater good”?

    Maybe you shouldn’t hold back?! Maybe the pain of the conversation would be for a greater good?!

    • Thanks for the kind words and I’m glad you’ve stumbled across my humble neck of the woods/internet.

      You’re newly deconverted? Lucky for you, the internet and blogs are a wonderful safe place to make friends and exchange ideas! So happy to have you here!

      I try and be as civil as possibly in any dialogues with believers as it tends to allow a better exchange of dialogue, but yeah, I’ve heard every terrible response possibly at this point. They mostly all tend to be some variation of one of a handful of standard responses and they’re all equally nauseating.

      One theist friend of mine always hides behind the armor of the fact (fact in his mind at least) that without god’s perspective, we couldn’t possibly hope to understand his plan. He issues weak analogies and then runs around in circles.

      It gets old, but one day I hope enough seeds of doubt have been planted that one will eventually stick.

      Hope to see you around more!

  8. It is true a lot of people thank God for material possessions when they should be thanking him for the wisdom and strength to work for the things they were able to acquire. I know my words my be a waste of time for a devote atheist but your view of God is wrong. There are a million components that go into the subject of poverty and wealth. God’s ability or willingness to provide has nothing to do with it. Religion doesn’t always paint the best picture of God.

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